How will news of my impending divorce affect friends and extended family?

Divorce is a very “me-centric” process, understandably encouraging divorcing Texas spouses to focus on their own personal, financial and emotional well-being. If you’re a parent, that level of concern extends to your kids.

But divorce affects everyone close, regardless of whether they are related to you or your soon-to-be-ex.  Likewise, it will significantly impact the future of all the friendships you have established on your own or through your spouse.

Control the narrative and avoid hurt feelings

Talking about the end of a marriage can be awkward. How you approach these conversations will likely set the tone for future relationships with:

  • In-laws: Each spouse may want to break the news separately to their own parents, grandparents and siblings. It’s essential to realize that your children will benefit from maintaining a loving relationship with your ex’s family, even if you are no longer present.
  • Extended family: Blood is thicker than water. Family members can be overly protective, and the news could make them uncomfortable or even upset. It might be a good idea to tell aunts, uncles, cousins and other family members separately.
  • Friends: Most of these people will feel the need to take sides. In most cases, the friends you made on your own before or during the marriage will remain close and be a vital support group. But attempting to stay friends with those who are really your spouse’s friends may not be a good idea.

Keep private matters private

While each situation and family is different, it’s advisable to focus on the future and not dwell on what led to the breakup. Besides, it’s no one else’s business why you and your spouse are no longer together.

Having an experienced family law attorney in your corner protecting your interests can instill confidence for having these challenging conversations. Best of all, remember that life after divorce opens up opportunities for meeting people, creating new bonds and exploring exciting adventures.