New Year's divorce resolutions for a better 2022

 Posted on January 01, 2022 in Divorce

January is famously known as the month when most divorces are filed, although there's no iron-clad proof that's true. However, once the holidays are over, many Texans want a fresh start when they determine their marriage no longer works.

Whether you’re already divorced, in the process or just considering if it's the right time, it's likely one of the most stressful and sad experiences of your life. But, just as New Year's signifies rebirth, there are things you can do to shift the focus from the pain to future opportunities.

New Year. New You!

Most of us make New Year's resolutions to lose weight, exercise more and be healthier. Many times, those last only a few weeks. But positively coping with divorce can make 2022 and beyond healthier for you and your family. Here are eight divorce resolutions to consider:

1. I will let go of the anger and blame and forgive my ex and myself.
2. I will speak respectfully and kindly about my ex, especially in front of our children.
3. I will be a cooperative co-parent, making compromises when necessary.
4. I will never put my kids in the middle of any dispute, big or small, with my ex.
5. I won’t make promises I can’t keep, and I will keep my promises.
6. I will focus on the future and not dwell on the past.
7. I will take steps to ensure my finances are sound.
8. I will take care of myself and look for help when needed.

Understandably, most divorced parents focus on their children's well-being. However, neglecting to deal with your pain in healthy ways can lead to added stress for you and everyone around you.

Charting a new course in the new year

When you take a wrong turn while driving to an unfamiliar destination, you’ll often hear your GPS say, “recalculating.” Likewise, you’ll face many uncertainties when starting your new single life. However, you have the tools at your disposal to successfully find your way and the new year can be an opportune time to hit “reset.”